Am I being unreasonable?

Today I've been doing the A-type thing again. When I went for an HSG last year, I was given FULL written instructions on what would happen, when it would happen, what I could expect/eat/drink/pain relief etc. Now, here I am going for major abdominal surgery and I have received NO information apart from a brief 5 min discussion with the gynae as to 'what could go wrong'. Now am I the only person who doesn't want surprises on c-sect day? Am I meant to just know that I cannot go to Mugg and Bean and have the Business Man's breakfast en route to the hosiptal on Friday morning? I have a million and one questions ,but I would rather be given the information than have to think of all the questions I should be asking.

To top it off, last night Keith and I went off to the clinic to 'book in' because we didn't feel like going in an extra 30 min earlier than we needed to on Friday morning to fill in all the forms, and apparently we should have been given an information pack. I got to ask the midwives on duty some of the questions I had lost sleep over the night before. But this morning I figured I still don't know what I should take to hospital? Baby clothes? Towels? Nappies?

I phoned Netcare now after having gone to the website to look for a nr - and called the 'patient liason officer' and this role or person no longer exists... so I'm now even more angry and I get passed on from person to person. Eventually I get a midwife who tries very calmly to help me. When I tried to explain how I feel about not having any information and being 'left to figure out things for myself' I am told that they only give you the information if you ask for it..... Unfortunately I'm now feeling very angry about this clinic and their lack of professionalism. I have to get over it and not let this affect Friday!

Failed ECV

I got to the clinic last night for my appointment only to find the Dr walking out of the building... he thought I wasn't coming! Clearly a lack of communication btn him and his secretary. Anyway, Keith got there too and I stared at the ants on the white ceiling while he tried to turn the baby to somersault down-wards. He told me a month ago he didn't think it would work becuase there is not enough fluid.. and it didn't. Baby didn't budge an inch. I was more afraid than sore from the procedure. He immediately checked the heart rate and it had gone to 167bpm. Webblet quickly settled down after that and I went for a precautionary NST. It was perfect, no stress seemed to have been passed onto babe - but I WAS stressed after the c-sect discussion and all the things that I need to be prepared for going wrong. I felt disappointed and sad that I was sitting in the lovely Genesis clinic where I want to have this baby, for the test, and hearing the newborns crying in the other rooms, knowing that I will most likely be having the c-sect next week in a hospital. Yes, I hate having my expectations messed up. And I have time - a week at least, to get used to the idea.
To put things in perspective I got a message from my SIL saying that like a wedding day, the birth day is just the beginning of the journey. It's not really about me, it's about bringing into the world this child in a safe manner. Yes, I want to experience natural childbirth and I may still get to do that if I have another baby. There are many positives - the baby is full-term and looking healthy and a good weight (about 2.5kg's!), I'm in safe hands with the team for the c-sect. I have a lot of support. My goal now is to be in a positive frame of mind and not emotionally distraught that my plan of natural is not going to happen. Although I'm going to give the baby another chance to turn with one last alternative remedy this evening....